Updated: Nov 19, 2020
Love is what we are born with, while fear is what we have built from our experiences this far. Allowing yourself to take the time to re-establish your self-worth and to do an emotional reset is what self-love is all about. To throw yourself out of our comfort zone, and get you to stop making excuses. To stop allowing fear to run your life and to STOP putting everyone else’s needs ahead of your own.
As Marianne Williamson said in her book Return back to love; “Love is the essential existential fact. It is our ultimate reality and our purpose on earth. To be consciously aware of it, to experience love in ourselves and others, is the meaning of life. Meaning doesn’t lie in things. Meaning lies in us. When we attach value to things that aren’t love – the money, the car, the house, the job – we are loving things that can’t love us back. We are searching for meaning in the meaningless.”
This is exactly what brought me to my lowest point. Allowing material things, and status to run my life. I put all of my energy and relied my happiness to come out of a job, promotions, and making more money until finally I broke. I hit my ultimate low, and this is why I have become a Life Coach. This is why I want to challenge you and help you if you are finding yourself in a similar place.
Change is not be easy! In fact for some of you change can be the most painful and hardest thing to do.
Let's see if we can muster up enough courage to start somewhere together. Say these three words to yourself.
I love you
Three words so often said to others but when was the last time you said “I love you” to yourself?
Think about it for a moment. Have you ever said I love you to yourself? As your thinking about it, embrace your answer without judgement. Whatever the answer is, accept it solely as information to build off of.
To begin practicing self-love you have to start somewhere. So, let’s start with this exercise.
Find a place that you can sit quietly and close your eyes. Take a few deep breaths in and out and imagine yourself standing in front of a mirror looking at your reflection. Take a good look at yourself and either silently or out loud I want you to say, “Your name), I Love You.”
How does it feel as the part of you who is saying it? And for the part of you who is hearing and receiving it, can you let it in?
Does it feel good or not? What are you feeling in your body? Do you feel worthy of such self-love? Do you deserve it? If you do really feel loved — wonderful.
If you can’t say it, or if it’s too hard to let the love in, then another practice you may want to try is saying “I love you” to others more often.
Self-love is an ongoing process for all of us. It takes work and patience and a lot of kindness to yourself.
I hope you enjoyed this exercise, and perhaps during it you were able to get a glimpse at that little girl in side that is ready to come out when it's time.